Asking questions is a vital skill for expats. In an unfamiliar environment, the ability to acquire new information and clarify ambiguous situations is key, especially at the beginning of a new assignment.

As helpful as books or websites can be, sometimes you’ll have to ask people around you for help.

Unfortunately, many of us feel self-conscious about asking questions. We worry that we will appear incompetent, weak or too dependent on others. We think our questions are stupid or too obvious.

If you are used to performing efficiently, and you habitually feel secure and autonomous, you may find it particularly difficult to rely on others for help.

Keep in mind that this is a temporary phase. The more information and clarity you gain by asking questions, the faster you will master your new environment and regain your confidence.

If this touches a nerve, you are not alone. I too used to feel very vulnerable when I had to admit what I did not know. Now I see the ability to ask good questions as a huge strength.
It was a major shift in perspective and one that has served me well.

In my previous corporate career, I was paid to have the answers. These days, I am being paid to ask the right questions and help my clients find their own answers.

What information are you missing, and how is it holding you back?
It could be something as trivial as where to buy a mop, or as major as choosing the right schooling option for your children.

Who could you ask?
A local friend, a neighbour or a shopkeeper can probably help you find your mop. Before deciding on a school, you may want to talk to another expat family, contact your consulate or ask around at the local expat club.

Start a list, or create a mind map of what you need to know and who could help you.

My mind map currently has “Find a good financial adviser” and “Learn about incorporating a company in British Columbia” as my main priorities. What is on your list of questions to ask?

Emmanuelle

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