Archive for September, 2009
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I didnâ€™t intend to turn this monthâ€™s posts into a series, but it seems that all I want to write about at the moment is culture shock!
Last week, I met a British expat who had recently relocated to Vancouver. A bit uneasy, she confided that she would have expected the transition to be effortless, given the historical ties (we are, after all, in British Columbia) and the common language.
Instead, she found that it was almost as much work adjusting to life in Canada as it was back when she moved to Germany for her very first assignment.
As I am always on the lookout for expat success strategies, this got me thinking.
No one will dispute that speaking the language is a big asset â€“ it makes your everyday life a lot easier and spares you untold amounts of frustration. But that doesnâ€™t mean that you can sit back and think that your work is done. (more…)0 comments | Leave a comment
As I mentioned before, I don’t believe that culture shock can be avoided altogether. But it can certainly be lessened.
We all know one of those “lucky” expats who seem to adjust effortlessly anywhere, no matter what kind of a hellhole their sadistic HR department sends them to. The truth is, luck has nothing to do with it. These highly adaptable individuals have mastered a few strategies that allow them to navigate through culture shock efficiently, if not entirely painlessly.
A lot of it is common sense, yes. But you know what? Common sense can go a long way.
3 Strategies To Minimise Culture Shock3 comments | Leave a comment
Living abroad and never getting culture shock is like being an entrepreneur and never freaking out. Or organising a wedding and never having a meltdown.
Itâ€™s a nice little fantasy. You really want to believe it can be done. You go to cross-cultural training sessions and language classes. You collect travel books and online resources as if they were amulets that will ward off the big bad culture shock.
Unfortunately, information and knowledge alone are not enough. Not if you donâ€™t know how to process them on the emotional, internal level. (more…)3 comments | Leave a comment
I am still thinking about that Bill Bryson quote that I found last week. What if culture shock wasnâ€™t such a bad thing after all?
I am not â€“ not for a single second â€“ implying that culture shock is a pleasant experience. More often than not, itâ€™s uncomfortable if not downright painful.
But thereâ€™s enjoyable, and then thereâ€™s useful. Just because culture shock is unpleasant doesnâ€™t mean that it cannot be a positive experience.
Letâ€™s try a different perspective for a second: we all agree that expatriation changes you as a person, and usually for the better. Expats share common skills such as greater adaptability, open-mindedness, resourcefulness, and, as a study recently showed, greater creativity.
How many of these highly desirable traits would you have developed or strengthened as an expat if you had never experienced culture shock? Would there be anything to gain if you never came into contact with a culture whose habits, behaviours or values challenged your own beliefs?
Bottom line: No culture shock = no growth.
Oh. I had never really thought about it that way.
Thatâ€™s a big shift, actually. Seeing culture shock not as the enemy, but as an opportunity. Thatâ€™s something new for me. Iâ€™ll try and keep that in mind next time something in Canadian culture (such as the all-pervading fear of conflict) catches me off guard.
I wonder how that will change my response, if I remember to look for the opportunity to grow.
And in the meantime, I would love to hear your thoughts on the subjectâ€¦
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“I can’t think of anything that excites a greater sense of childlike wonder than to be in a country where you are ignorant of almost everything. Suddenly you are five years old again. You can’t read anything, you have only the most rudimentary sense of how things work, you can’t even reliably cross a street without endangering your life. Your whole existence becomes a series of interesting guesses.”
- Bill Bryson
Darn. Now I feel like taking off to some faraway country where I don’t speak the language. Ah, the joys of chronic wanderlust!
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I have a confession to make: even though I use it daily, I hate the term â€śculture shockâ€ť with a passion. The way I see it, if Culture Shock were a person, it would be an elitist drama queen.
Thereâ€™s something so big, so dramatic about â€śCulture Shockâ€ť that a whole lot of expats donâ€™t feel that they evenÂ deserve to use the term.
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Last Fridayâ€™s post on Culture Shock or Smooth Sailing? prompted insightful, thought-provoking comments, both on the blog and via email.Â Several readers asked me to write more about culture shock, so over the next few days I will be running a mini-series of posts about this well-known (yet still misunderstood) aspect of expat life.
As an aside â€“ and because I cannot emphasize this enough: your questions are always welcome. The reason why Iâ€™m writing is to make your life abroad easier. In other words, I want to make sure that I’m writing about topics of interest to you.
If there is a subject youâ€™d like to see addressed here, please leave a comment or send me an email. Any personal details you may share in your email will be kept strictly confidential and, as anyone whoâ€™s ever written me can tell you, I wonâ€™t try to promote anything â€“ earning your trust is much more valuable to me than selling you a coaching session.
So if you have any questions that would make good topics for this blog, I am all ears.
And now, back to the topic at hand! If I had only one message about culture shock, it would be this:
Culture shock is a normal, natural, maybe even necessary part of living abroad.
So donâ€™t be, well, too shocked (!) and don’t beat yourself up whenever your beliefs, behaviours or traditions happen to clash with those of your host country. Itâ€™s entirely normal, and itâ€™s to be expected.
Culture shock doesn’t discriminate
Culture shock can happen to anyone – first-timers and veteran expats alike.
It can happen anywhere – even if all your friends are telling you youâ€™re living in paradise.
It can happen at anytime â€“ sometimes as soon as you leave the airport, and sometimes after living in your new country for a year or two.
Suffering from culture shock doesnâ€™t have anything to do with being weak or strong. It doesnâ€™t mean youâ€™re too set in your ways or psychologically fragile.
It absolutely doesnâ€™t mean that something is wrong with you.
Itâ€™s simply part of the natural adjustment process as you find your way around your new surroundings.
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Emmanuelle0 comments | Leave a comment
Culture shock. Weâ€™ve all heard about it, and chances are, weâ€™ve all experienced it to some degree during our expat adventures.
I can see her point. After all, if youâ€™re moving from one developed country to another, how big could the difference be, right?
However, back when I was in Sweden some 15 years ago (yikes!), I saw enough fellow French and British students suffer from full-blown culture shock to know that things are not that simple.
I donâ€™t believe that culture shock has much to do with the objective differences between two countries. It all happens on the emotional level.
Youâ€™re headed for culture shock when you: (more…)9 comments | Leave a comment
A reader visiting from Study Abroad In Argentina blog recently asked the following question:
How can one merge with society in order to really learn the language if they donâ€™t have a job there or any other activity surrounding them with natives?
Great question! We all know that immersion is the best way to boost your language skills, but if you’re never around local people, you’re not going to make that much progress.
Here are three scenarios* you may be faced with:
*or should it be scenarii? These Latin plurals are so darn confusing!
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